Schooling Mothers of Youth on Loving Effectively

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I did it because I needed a change!

I gave up my old way of thinking and created a new me in myself! I tell y’all, as I head to work this morning I can’t help reflect on a conversation I had with a family member the other day. Of course many family members do have your best interest in mind…but they are brainwashed with the same slavery mentality as you were so their advice is a little tainted if you have grown beyond them mentally and spiritually. Yes it is true that I went to college and first began as a nursing major, couldn’t stomach it so I switched to psychology and criminal justice with the plans of going to Law School. I always knew I wanted to help people make positive changes in their life, just didn’t realize which path was best.

I’ve worked in enough positions and fields to know that I’m not happy when I don’t have enough freedom. I needed to be able to work a position where I could be myself, have fun, organize, learn, exhibit my professionalism and deal with different people on a regular basis and not feel like I’m on a clock as an employee. After working jobs where I had great responsibility, long hours and stressful case loads I have now decided in a new state to try something different, to step outside of my comfort zone of hiding behind the desk and computer and literally got on my feet.

I have decided to get out of my own way with my pride and worrying about what others would think of my decisions. I was happiest when I worked at McDonald’s as a teen, I was promoted rather quickly and had fun doing so. As an adult I completed bartending school because I wanted daily money and I wanted to have fun while being myself, but my conscious wouldn’t allow me to be comfortable serving poison to my people for paper. I took some time to pray about it and decided to go to a temp agency that specializing in banquet and serving positions. I passed their little quiz and was invited to orientation…the only thing was I had to go purchase a full uniform before attending this orientation and that would cost in total close to $100.

I think I cried that night and asked the Universe what should I do. I listened and began to search Craigslist for jobs in food/hospitality and came across some good ads for hostess and servers and I thought to myself, why wait on a temp agency to send me on assignments when I could just apply directly and have a steady schedule and employer. That thought led me to an ad for Denny’s Restaurant, I figured I start there since I needed to get back in the swing of serving. I interviewed twice and was hired and I must admit this is the most fun I have had working since I was a teenager. I make the same amount I was making when I was behind the desk (when you add my hourly rate and daily tips), but with 1/3 the headache. Instead of being broke every two weeks because the bills are waiting for me to get paid, I have money daily and can budget and make sure our needs are met much efficiently. I can make peoples day brighter with my smile, and give advice with my positive attitude and suggest food options that will improve ones health with my wellness coaching. I work at a truck stop and get the pleasure meeting people from all over the country and different walks of life.

I’ve been able to pay towards my dreams of being an author and motivational speaker without sacrificing the cost of bills or rent because I am in better control of the flow of money. The moral of my story is once you learn to let go of the ego and pride, get out of your own way and begin to do the things that make you happy, it will create more happiness and you will become blessed and start to see how God works in your life. It starts with faith, is your cup ready to overflow??!! Don’t let this government, bills or the economy discourage you..where that stops is where God takes over…take a step out on faith today!
Peace & Love
Ono


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9 Sure-fire Tips to Expand Your Mind!

Sit Back and Starve

Life is too short to be content with commonplace ideas and philosophies society bombards us with. What use is being called Homo sapiens, “the thinking man,” if we refrain from using every bit of time we have left to enhance our meditating faculties? So in the interest of the purely rational mind and for the sake of posterity, we have compiled a list of intellectual tasks and mental exercises you can perform to expand your mind:

1. Start reading serious books. — Stephen Hawking didn’t become Stephen Hawking by reading Spider-Man, and Ayn Rand didn’t come up with Objectivism by immersing herself in sleazy romance novels! Chuck out every non-serious, fun, and emotional book or reading material you have in your shelves and start collecting those leather-bound tome-like ones without any pictures. If the font is smaller than size 8, that’s a good sign you’re in the right direction. Burn…

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The purpose of education, the realest ish I ever wrote!

Let me just say that I am not against education…I love for people to get knowledge..I am against the educational system that this country has evolved into, before the industrial revolution..which is the era that was created when the government realized..hey we can train people to work and make money for us, let’s help them forget their natural talents and just teach them what we want them to know. Before this time our people used their natural talents as their business that took care of their families. There were merchants, locksmiths, candlestick makers, farmers, etc. Not to mention how awesome it was to have a bartering system..where its like hey I will give you x amount of candles for x amount of produce. Therefore business owners were able to barter for the needs of their families and only capitalize from those not participating in the bartering system, which were still many. These days they want us to pay to get their idea of education, so we can work to support their freedom, not ours. In the meantime they bombard us with media that shows us all this shit and they brainwash us into thinking we ain’t shit if we don’t buy into it. Nike’s, Jordan’s, big homes, fancy cheaply built cars, clothes and accessories that are made in China. Let’s not even get started on China, that’s an entirely different conversation. What I’m saying is, get educated…if going to college is your goal, by all means do it. What I want you to avoid is the slavery mentality of believing everything you see because someone is telling you that you should. Make your money and invest in what makes you happy. You may love to make candles or sew your own clothes or paint beautiful pictures on canvas. Instead of buying expensive clothes and shoes and helping the rich get richer…try using your own talents to help you build revenue so you can get out of that debt and truly be free. You don’t have to work until you are 65 because they told you so, get smarter and you can retire at 25, 35, 45 or 55 and live a healthier more fulfilling life doing what you are truly meant to do. Will everyone read this and stop giving so much money back to the corporation just to show you got it like that? No! Does that makes me angry? Yes! But hey, the life of righteous is not for everyone, only a selected chosen few..and those few are the ones I’m writing this for. Be smart, don’t believe the hype…it with cost you your happiness.
Peace & Love
Ono


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Do you feel your relationship is holding you back?

So many times while dating we meet someone with so many good qualities, we have fun in the beginning and you are convinced that the relationship could have good potential. You decide to move forward then next thing you know, potential isn’t developing into progress. What do you do? Do you slow your progress down to help your partner catch up? What if you find yourself being the one making moves for the both of you? Is this a deal breaker? Or do you help your partner realize what they are good at and help them do more of that?


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Having single friends while in a relationship

Come on y’all I need your help in this one. I will often bring up topics that I discuss with friends or clients just to get a consensus on the topic. Ladies what do we do if we enter into a relationship and our boyfriends have female friends that they have been cool with before we entered the picture? Same question for the men, what do you say to your boo if she didn’t tell you upfront that she is so close with other men? Do we give them an ultimatum or trust them? Does it make it better if he or she is taken and in a relationship of their own? Would you expect your partner to suggest double dating even if you don’t know either person?


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We aren’t parents, we are assistants of the Universe

Not everyone is gifted with the ability to have children. Trust me if you have children it is for a more divine reason than you realize. Not every man and woman that has unprotected sex produces children. What bothers me is when parents think their kids were born and owe them something. Children are born because God has a purpose for their lives and saw fit for you to be the conceiver and bearer of the child. Many of us don’t realize our purpose enough to raise children into their purpose. It is important for us to learn more about what we enjoy doing and what makes us happy so we can do more of those things and pass it on to our children. I remember one time after a holiday my step Mom caught me giving a piece of ham to a stray dog and I got yelled at. She also used to offer us kids up to the drunks asking her for change in the street as a joke. As a child this is most confusing especially if God wanted you on this Earth to be a giver. So please parents stop trying to live your life through your children, you never know how the little things will slow your child down from living in their purpose. Let them explore and find other activities for them to participate in other than things you did as a child. My children like soccer, tennis and swimming and a variety of other things. None of these things I wanted to do daily as a child, but because I know I have them and it is my duty to guide them into happiness I will do research and find someone who is into those activities that can help. Think about your kids talents and things they enjoy doing and get them to doing more of it. Not only will it increase their happiness, but it may turn into their purpose which can turn into their success.

Peace & Love
Ono


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Feel it, speak it, write it and so shall it be

This message came to me this morning as I woke up and began to send out positive vibes to those on my mind this morning. Everyday there are a numerous amount of people that my spirit sends me, so when they pop in my mind I send them my energy even though I may be miles away. In particular my brother has been heavy on my mind, as I began to analyze the reason why it is probably because I want the best for him. It seems like there is a curse on the males in my family they all get themselves into some unnecessary shit and end up with their rights and freedom stripped from them. They go to prison as young men and from then on their lives are so much more complicated and they miss out on so much. I want my people to learn from others mistakes so they can know how to avoid them, not try to see if that same mistake will have a different outcome in their lives. I recently told my brother to write down his goals. I constantly pray that when I instruct someone to do something, they listen! Scientifically speaking I am born in the week of prophecy, which means I have the gift of communicating and enforcing revealed truth. So my truth here today for all that are reading this is, have you ever heard the saying that all things happen in 3?! For example, death? Father, son, holy spirit? The trinity? Well if that sounds familiar listen to what I tell you. So many people simply just pray about what they want and continue to miss their blessings because they are only doing the first step, however there are two additional steps that follow when you desire to attract goodness into your life. When you pray get in tune with your mind and your body, then your mind will subconsciously begin to help you figure out what you want in life. Step 2 is to say what you want aloud, most of the time our prayers are done silently, we need to get it out and say it so that it could be real. Say what you want to someone who you can trust as an accountability partner, someone that can hold you accountable for the goals you set for yourself. Even better is someone who may be praying for the same thing as you. The final step is to write it down, it is not enough for you to think and pray about it…you have to say it and you have to write it down. From here you will REALLY begin to see God work in your life. We can pray and God is ready to assist…but you have some work to do as well. Come to God with your half of the cup filled and watch how it begins to overflow, have fun with life because life is what you make it!

Peace & Love
Ono